It took a while. But Helen was finally able to let go of her sexually addicted, unfaithful, and abusive boyfriend. To help Helen with her growing depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, I got her in touch with reality and to see what really is. She finally realized that she was victimized by a con man and predator ...
Date Posted: June 12, 2014
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse, Personality problems
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
When I saw Tonton, he was severely hurt, depressed, and breaking down. He was in much tears. He just caught his wife cheating again over the internet and seeing the OP (other person).Along the way, he was able to check reality and acknowledge to himself that his wife remained unrepentant of her ...
Jun 7
Categories: Addictions, Ending a relationship issues, Relationships & Marriage
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
We all face stress in our lives. When stress kicks in, we may become vulnerable. We coop ourselves and refuse to talk about it. Depression may slip and slide in and make us feel physically and emotionally drained and tired. We may express our stressed in different ways. Some of us may choose to be ...
May 31
Categories: Stress Management
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Again this afternoon, like in many of my counseling sessions, a hurting Mom cried. She said, "My husband and I have invested much time and money on our son, and he's still violent and in alcoholism and drug addiction." This Mom's energy and hope are progressively being siphoned to ...
May 22
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Parenting, Teenage Issues
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
This was originally posted on my blog SG Psych Stuff on 27 March 2014, and was requested to be reposted here. You may read my other 100+ posts on my blog as well.This is a revised and updated version of ...
May 19
Categories: Academic Issues
Written By:
SGPsychStud
A frequent call I get is a distraught female partner calling me to make an appointment for the couple or her spouse/boyfriend because she caught him using porn (which is code for masturbating himself to porn and not using her). The other frequent call I get is the shamed husband/boyfriend calling ...
May 11
Categories: Couple Counseling, Ending a relationship issues, Marital Counseling, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Betrayals in relationship change the quality and functioning of the relationship in dramatic ways. Trust is the primary aspect affected as well as the betrayed partner’s sense of safety in the couple. Betrayals bring up many dilemmas for the couple. Few couples have the skills or the ...
May 11
Categories: Couple Counseling, Infidelity, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
This week, I received a heartbreaking message from a divorced, 32-year-old Middle Eastern woman I'd call Riza. She is currently remarried after a time of promiscuity from the first divorce and left everything to be with her second husband in a foreign country.After just less than a year of ...
May 10
Categories: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment, Love addiction, Self-Esteem
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Grieving is painful, and not only for the person grieving, but for the griever's loved ones, family and friends. Unfortunately in modern society with its emphasis on speed and efficiency, some well-intentioned individuals who otherwise sympathize with the grieving person, may ...
May 8
Categories: Depression, Grief, Loss, Bereavement
Written By:
Brian Scott
There was a time when the field of medicine, psychiatry, or even psychology was uncomfortable with looking too closely at the issue of forgiveness. Forgiveness is often perceived as an issue of faith. But today, forgiveness has become a widely studied topic in the mental health clinical field.In ...
Apr 27
Categories: Forgiveness, Relationships & Marriage, Religious Issues
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
I first learned of the three A's, awareness, acceptance, and action from Alanon which is a wonderful self-help group for the family and friends of the alcoholic. Alanon suggests its members utilize the "Three A's" in dealing with the problems specifically caused by ...
Apr 16
Categories: Codependency / Dependency
Written By:
Brian Scott
Couples struggling with an unsatisfying sex life may blissfully remember the days when they seems to effortlessly fall into bed and enjoy one another sexually. You may also want to recall along with that image how much simplier your life was back then. You didn't have bills, debts, mortgage, ...
Apr 8
Categories: Couple Counseling, Men's Issues, Relationships & Marriage, Sexual ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
People drink for all sorts of reason. Some reasons are to socialize, celebrate and relax. Other times people use alcohol as a form of self-medication to help them manage stress, anxiety or to use it to distract them from unpleasant or unhappy situations in their life.Alcohol has a strong effect on ...
Apr 2
Categories: Addictions, Couple Counseling, Men's Issues, Women's Issues, ...
Written By:
Tammy M. Fontana, MS NCC CTRT Sex Therapist USA
Short term relief does not last. It can in fact become a separate psychological issue unto itself.When John saw me for help, he has been under psychiatric treatment for over 10 years. Despite the length of his treatment, he remained "stuck" within himself - psychologically, emotionally, ...
Apr 1
Categories: Addictions, Emptiness, Grief, Loss, Bereavement
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
The continuing confusion and lack of definitive information about the whereabouts of Malaysian Airline MH370 for over two weeks (when this post is written), has focused the world's attention on the suffering of the family and friends of the 239 missing passengers. It is difficult to even ...
Mar 24
Categories: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Support Groups
Written By:
Brian Scott