Feelings are a crucial part of the inner life. When one is psychologically disturbed or traumatized, feelings become vulnerable. A person may lose touch of the reality of his feelings. He can be alienated from his feelings.Yet these feelings don't go away. They continue to appear or surface. Most commonly, damaged ...
Date Posted: April 27, 2013
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Abuse
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
I’m reminded of one of Dr. Sigmund Freud’s psychodynamic concepts, “ego defenses.” Ego defenses are inhibiting internal mechanisms that prevent us from “knowing” early emotional pain through rationalizing, analyzing, explaining away, minimizing, ...
Apr 23
Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Intelligence
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
This new century has brought with it the topic of climate change as a constant in the news media. A controversial and complex topic, it involves discerning the potential contributions of solar radiation, continental drift, and greenhouse gas concentrations to the changing levels of vegetation, ...
Apr 23
Categories: Obsessions & Compulsions (OCD)
Written By:
Tony Brown
Healing can happen only in a climate of openness and truth.This is the tragedy of Mina. Mina was caught in adultery, one which traumatized her husband. Her need to deny or "stonewall" her wrongdoing prevented her personal, marital, and family healing. What's her primary wound? I ...
Apr 22
Categories: Addictions, Attachment Issues, Couple Counseling
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Who is a Psychotherapist? You may be unfamiliar with the term or who he or she is. In fact, lots have misconceptions about it.
Two basic words: healer, helper.
A psychotherapist is one who helps people heal and resolve their emotional, mental, behavioral, or relational problems that cause ...
Apr 20
Categories: Mental Health Professions
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
In Connecticut USA, a few months ago, about 20 children from an elementary school was massacred by a 20-year-old Adam who also killed his mother and himself.You know, I have a daughter - Angel - who is still in the elementary school. I've held her closer and tighter than before after knowing of ...
Apr 10
Categories: Bereavement
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Do you know that an average toddler laughs about 200 times each day? And according to researchers of laughter, the toddler registers only 6 laughs a day by the time he reaches average adulthood. Tell me, where did the toddler lose 194 laughs?I have a theory. At least, for my self. I think I start ...
Apr 7
Categories: Adult psychological development
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
With the stress of everyday life, it's not unusual for a couple to lose their emotional connection. Our relationship therapists cite a number of reasons why a couple loses connection and ends up hardy talking to ...
Apr 4
Categories: Couple Counseling, Empathy, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, ...
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“The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control their emotions by the application of reason.”
This quote by the 20th century writer Marya Mannes sums up has Western thought has subordinated emotion to intelligence since just after the time of Charles Darwin. Darwin ...
Mar 22
Categories: Emotional Intelligence
Written By:
Tony Brown
One of the most frequent questions to arise in couples counselling is: can my relationship surive an affair? If you've just found out your partner has had an affair, you're probably devastated. Infidelity can have a major impact on the survival of your relationship and also your emotional ...
Mar 8
Categories: Ending a relationship issues, Infidelity, Marital Counseling, ...
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Depression is a common illness, affecting people with very different lifestyles and backgrounds. Yet there are varying degrees of depression. Some kinds are much more incapacitating than others. Some people experience mild depression, ...
Mar 8
Categories: Depression, Emptiness, Women's Issues
Written By:
Joanna Fishman
With clients who are dissatisfied with their lives and feel it is “all meaningless”, I have found it useful to ask “Are you doing what you really, really, want to do?” Initially many clients are a bit stunned by this question but then after a moment of reflection many reply ...
Feb 25
Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Career Development and ...
Written By:
Brian Scott
If you are interested in relationships, you will be interested in learning about attachment theory. This theory highlights the importance of the relationship between infants and their caregivers. Our relationships in adult life are affected by the quality of this first emotional bond. Indeed, much of what couple counselling ...
Feb 15
Categories: Adult psychological development, Attachment Issues, Child ...
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Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to appreciate one’s own emotions while maintaining awareness of others’. There are different components of the EI process to consider. First, the emotional intelligence of perception concerns the ability to recognize emotion cues in their ...
Feb 13
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Intelligence
Written By:
Tony Brown
As mindfulness and CBT make their way into mainstream medicine, there are many hurdles to clear. We need to accomplish more research on the anatomical correlates, neural substrates and cognitive descriptions. We will also need to educate more healthcare practitioners who, until now consider ...
Jan 28
Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Written By:
Tony Brown
Imagine the following scenario. One member of a committed couple arrives home 45 min late. The other member of the couple who spent hours preparing a nice meal feels unappreciated and angrily snaps “Why are you so late?” This seems like an attack to the other mate who was laid off that ...
Jan 18
Categories: Relationships & Marriage
Written By:
Brian Scott